Prioritize You

Do you feel frustrated with conflict at home and at work? Do you feel overwhelmed and angry by your kids disobeying instructions, and fighting? Do you feel your team's conflicts affecting you? Do you feel misunderstood, and even undermined at work?

A radical awareness emerged this week from our online leadership parenting groups. It is a game changer.

" *The more you prioritize you, the easier you can transform conflict into peace."*

Have you been told (like me) that it is selfish to put yourself first? Have you felt that spiritual depth comes from sacrificing your needs? Dear one, the opposite is true. Self care strategies laid out by the _bhakti_ saints are powerful.

A mom has been frustrated with her 12 year old. She doesn't follow instructions and she bugs her sibling incessantly. Mom feels reactive, frustrated, angry. Grandparents are upset about it too.

Mom applies the HEAR process on herself. It's a self care strategy to hold space for emotions. She increases her mantra affirmations (another self care strategy) and submits daily observations in our safe online group.

Only a few days later she shares deep shifts. "I saw her face filled with sadness. I was able to understand what she was feeling, and why. After our talk, she even thanked me for understanding her." Hearing this, I get tears in my eyes.

By holding space for her own emotions, this leadership parent was able to transform her daughter's upset.

A dad shares the same! He has set strong boundaries on what he's okay to do and what not. He brings this awareness at home and at work. This clarity makes him naturally empathic with annoying colleagues. The entire frustrating scenario at work is resolved.

A doctor in NC applied the self care as well. She is tired of her kids incessant fighting. After practicing HEAR on herself, she recognized subtle discomfort in her 4 year old, and intervened before the fight emerged. She was amazed.

Saint Gaura, patron saint of love and learning states: _Tomare loite ami hoinu avatara, ami vina bandhu aara, ke aache tomara._

When you take care of you, with deep spiritual self care strategies, you can understand and address everyone else's needs around you.

Those who are here for you to guide -- they need you to prioritize you. It is not being selfish to do so. You must put yourself and your needs first.

*What will you do this week to put yourself first? Let me know!*

Sign up for the next connections course, starting in October - only 4 slots left. Learn these self care strategies that turn arguments into loving conversations. tinyurl.com/meetmgg

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